Self-confidence is knowing yourself, what you are like and being able to play to your own zone of strengths whilst taking on reasonable challenges. Situations that promote self-confidence change by personality type; a cautious person will not be comfortable with high levels of risk; a risk-taker will not appreciate an environment that is seen as too ‘safe’.
Self-confidence comes from not turning away from challenges, but from meeting challenges and making them successful. And yes, a long string of project failures will get anyone down!
Your personal and professional relationships (or lack of them) will strongly influence your self-confidence. If key people in your peer group habitually ‘put you down’ then your confidence will suffer. If your peer groups are supportive and you have a secure base to operate from, then failures will be less damaging to you and your successes will be celebrated.
There is a relationship between competence, expertise and self-confidence. Often it is the least-expert person who has unreasonable amounts of over-confidence in their abilities. ‘Ego’ is in fact the opposite of competence. An expert person usually knows the limitations of their abilities, and may not feel confidence. There is also a zone called “unconsciously expert” where we know more than we realise on a subject.
At IYLC we do not teach ‘self-confidence’ directly. We believe that all our courses and exercises help students to understand more about themselves and more about how the world around them operates. Equipped with a growing portfolio of skill-sets and by meeting challenges successfully, IYLC students can practice and even fail in the knowledge that they have a secure base that will help them learn from any mistakes and go from strength to strength.
Maturity in this area allows IYLC graduates to be prepared and careful about others. They are calm and peaceful, they know what they want and show high level of appreciation. For them, confidence comes from the inside; confident people are open-minded and don’t always seek to be right. It is an attitude we can develop in our journey to becoming successful leaders who others want to follow.
They act aligned to their beliefs and values, with a purpose in their mind. They like taking decisions and making choices that give confidence. The first step towards anything is always the most challenging where confidence and trust in you are required. Once you start, it becomes easier and easier because progress and development promotes increase in self-confidence.
- Self-management. Acting, working and behaving in alignment with your own values and beliefs is the base for managing yourself. Becoming happy with yourself and becoming aware of what you have to offer is another important step to take. Once you start believing in yourself you will start setting realistic goals, trusting others and trusting yourself.
- Peer group roles are an essential in life. As a professional, friend, sibling or partner. Knowing the elements and steps it takes to be successful will allow you to live in a more fulfilling life. Transferring those skills in your different roles onto other people and supporting them to develop their self-confidence, will define you as a leader. Excellent managers or leaders want to get the best out of people and the first step towards that is giving your team the confidence and secure base to take risk, potentially fail and to perform.
- Learn to Believe in Yourself. If you do not believe into yourself, your goals, your ideas or your way of life, other won’t be able to. Every human is unique and everyone has their own approach.
IYLC doesn’t sell a stand alone course on ‘self-confidence’. We believe that by learning more about how people, think, feel, work and interact will help all our students develop both competence and confidence. Exploring yourself and how you come across with your confidence levels is the first step. Identifying your assumptions and limiting beliefs allows you to take a reality check and understand those underpinning breaks holding you back from gaining self-confidence.
Creating a recipe for self-management to start feeling comfortable inside your own body and the life you are leading. Students may want to discover new knowledge on anything from nutrition or exercise to how to avoid over-scheduling their agenda or maintaining healthy relationships.
Moving on from that, take the chance to become a great leader by learning how to identify when others can’t or don’t achieve or perform to their full potential and help them to get on a new, more fulfilling and successful track.